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“My boyfriend-in-law,” I’d happily called Rajiv in those first heady
months when we still thought we could make it work. On Saturday nights, we’d
settle into a three-way snuggle with a bottle of wine and a movie. Then I’d
kiss them goodnight as they left for Rajiv’s apartment and I went off in search
of kindred spirits at the baths. It was bound to happen. The uncomplicated fun between
them didn’t carry the baggage of what Jim and I hadn’t sorted through in ten
years. I told Jim that I wished we could have found together what he was finding
with Rajiv--but was glad he could find it with somebody. It seemed only fair. I
was the one, after all, who’d opened Pandora’s Box.
I couldn't stop playing the "what if's" over in my head. I was the one who'd first wanted the freedom to explore, frustrated by how little seemed possible between Jim and me in bed. I was the one who took Pete's advice to go off for a week and learn erotic massage with forty guys on a mountain above the Napa wine country. There I discovered the long, slow sexual charge that took the top of my head off and left me euphoric and in love with the whole world for weeks. After that I saw no way of turning back. If I couldn't make that magic with Jim, then I had to find a way to make it on my own. I tried to take the quiet, stable domestic satisfactions of life with Jim for what they were. We made a perfect fit in the house and garden: moving around each other in the kitchen like pros; Jim happy to dig the flower beds I was happy to weed and water. But I'd find what I needed to feel fully alive somewhere else.
What if I hadn't encouraged Jim to give New Age Slut Camp a try for himself, and he hadn't met Rajiv, on top of a massage table, glistening with oil and writhing in pleasure? What if Rajiv hadn't turned out to live a twenty-minute walk from us back at home?
“What if” was killing me slowly, leaching my confidence about everything
that had seemed so right in my life for two years, shutting down the future as
fast as fast as I tried to embrace it, despite regret and loss and a rising,
corrosive tide of self-pity. But then, if joy and loss hadn’t turned out to be
two sides of the same coin, I would never have found myself below a Tennessee
woodland waterfall with these men. That was the price of the ticket, it had
turned out, for each of us.
“Where did you go?” Billy asked me as we climbed out of the pool and
gathered up the clothes we weren’t going to have much need of for the rest of
the day.
"The usual," I said. He'd already heard the story too many times. Telling him again wasn't going to help me get free of it.
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